This Mother’s Day your grandchild’s mom deserves a trophy for her heroic efforts during the pandemic. Normally, Mother’s Day reminds us to tell our mothers how much they mean to us. But the ones who need it even more — after the year we’ve been through — are our daughters and daughters-in-law, the mothers of our grandchildren.
Words of praise from our mothers are important no matter how old we are. Let’s face it — we all love being appreciated and respected for the job we do. During the pandemic, many of our daughters and daughters-in-law continued to work from home juggling jobs and schooling under one roof. Sometimes the toll on the family was so great moms stepped out of the workforce because the pressure was just too much.
Even stay-at-home moms became their children’s daycare and pre-school providers when those services shut down. They may have also served as caretakers to vulnerable and aging parents. Overseeing their kids’ education and managing their households caused major burnout for so many moms that we’re just now realizing the toll it’s taken.
Empathy for Working Moms
It’s no secret that working moms have been some of the hardest hit with significant stress and responsibilities over the past year, especially mothers who are first responders or at a higher risk for contracting COVID-19.
Many faced inflexible work structures that overburden mothers grappling with the unseen toll of unpaid care: the cooking, cleaning and daily care of children that women are more likely to undertake than men.
Beyond financial and employment crises, the pandemic created a deeper mental health crisis among mothers, both working and otherwise.
Moms are always spread thin, whether it’s due to single-parenting, job insecurity, relationship instability, or childcare struggles. There is just an undeniable amount of added responsibility placed on moms – responsibilities that unfortunately still stereotypically fall upon them.
Show Appreciation to Your Grandchild’s Mom
We can acknowledge the sacrifices our daughters and daughters-in-law made and have a positive impact on them. When we do so, we integrate the power of appreciation into our relationships and show that we truly understand what they’re going through. Here are four ways to show appreciation when acknowledging your daughter or daughter-in-law:
- Look for the good stuff.
- Be genuine and speak from the heart.
- Thank them in a personal way.
- Let them know their positive impact on you.
Whether you write a letter or express your appreciation out loud:
- Validate the strain put on your daughter or DIL over the past year.
- Empathize with the sacrifices, the emotions, and losses she’s suffered.
- Show compassion, kindness, and appreciation with positive words.
- Lower your expectations and don’t add pressure.
- Ask how you can help even from a distance.
We all hunger for appreciation and we have the ability to give our grandchild’s mother this gift on a regular basis and in a genuine way. If you remember your intention is to love them, thank them, appreciate them, fill them up, and let them know how grateful you are for who they are, what they have done and the impact they’ve had on you, then you can’t mess up.