Author Mike Robbins is a man on a mission. He wants to help us feel better about ourselves so we can live our best, fullest lives and thrive in our relationships.
In his newest book, Nothing Changes Until You Do: A Guide to Self-Compassion and Getting Out of Your Own Way, he offers lessons and insights that focus on how we can have more compassion, acceptance, and love for ourselves, others, and life itself.
I’ve been a fan of Mike’s books for many years and often refer back to them. (See my reviews of Focus on the Good Stuff and Be Yourself: Everyone Else Is Already Taken.) He’s a great storyteller and uses his own life experiences to share simple common sense wisdom that we often forget when we get caught up in life’s challenges. Mike has a gift for being able to observe human behavior and explain it in concrete terms so we can stop feeling stuck by our emotions and change how we see things.
As Mike writes in his book, much of what we attempt to do in life is fairly simple; it’s dealing with ourselves that is often most challenging. When we practice kindness towards ourselves and learn to make peace with who we are and what’s happening right now, we’re not only able to create the kind of experiences and outcomes we truly desire, but also to have an authentic sense of joy and gratitude within ourselves, as well as in the most important relationships and activities in our lives.
The book is divided into 40 short chapters, which you can read straight through or select as the titles resonate with you. That’s what I did. The very first chapter that jumped out at me was “Make Peace With Your Body and Appearance.” Mike’s deeply personal feelings truly resonated with me and I was inspired to write a post: Why Are Women So Obsessed With Their Bellies?
I enjoyed Mike’s book so much and think it will help you:
- Make peace with yourself, others, and life
- Break through the traps of self-criticism and perfectionism
- Accept yourself and those around you with compassion
- Live with courage, passion, and vulnerability
- Remember how powerful and resilient you are
Mike’s book reminds me of Richard Carlson’s Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff… and It’s All Small Stuff and it’s no surprise. They were close friends and Carlson became a mentor to Mike. He inspired Mike to pursue coaching, speaking and writing. He wrote the foreword to Mike’s first book and tragically, just three weeks later, Carlson died of a pulmonary embolism at the age of 45. Mike writes in his new book that he often heard Carlson’s voice in his head, especially when he started to worry or stress out about something specific.